There is a woman on the November board who is going through a miscarriage right now & I was reading some of the comments people left her & it just pissed me off. Just say how sorry you are FFS. My list of some of the worst things you can say when someone has a miscarriage:

• Everything happens for a reason
• God had other plans
• Don’t worry, you can try again
• At least you know you can get pregnant
• You’ll be over it soon
• The next one will be better
• It’s better that it happens now rather than later
• There was obviously something wrong with that baby, so it’s just sorted itself out
• That baby probably would have been born with all sorts of problems, at least you can try again for a healthy one

Yes, these are all things I’ve seen or have had said to me or I’ve read on baby boards. I’m serious, if you can’t come up with something useful to say just STFU. The only thing a woman needs to hear are condolences & offers for a shoulder to cry on.